On your joy journey, have you ever second-guessed yourself and then those thoughts wind up showing up as disgust? That’s what happened for me this week. ☹ As I build this business, I need to learn new skills and navigate through uncharted territory. I had a productive yet LONG-@SS day on Monday (12 hours). I should have been happy with that, but nope. Negative thinking popped into my head and I started comparing this work life against my past work life where I was making fistfuls of money. LOL!
Along comes DISGUST
Luckily, I had a session scheduled with my money coach (yeah, that’s a thing) and she helped me work through this. She asked me if I had seen the movie Inside Out. I said, ‘Oh yeah! I LOVE that movie! Such a great way to depict emotions!’. As we chatted, that’s when I realized that DISGUST was showing up because I wasn’t going fast enough for her or doing what SHE wanted me to do.
JOY is on a different road
WOW! Now that was powerful. Then we started talking about JOY. I’m in my passion and my purpose right now. This business…the professionals I’m helping, the businesses that are moving the needle…all of that is what I’m meant to do. I’m on a different road now. I can let DISGUST have her moment; however, I need to remember that my past work life is a different road. My JOY is on this road. 😊
Change isn’t microwaveable
The thing is – change is hard! This is where SADNESS shows up. Hahahahaha! I don’t know about you, but I’m not the most patient person on the planet. I think we are conditioned to want things immediately. One of my students put this perfectly this week:
Jason said, “I think one of the biggest issues is that we live in a society where things are instantaneous. We can order food, and have it delivered to our homes, we can order a book and get it in days. We can even get a date on our phones and meet them in hours. Because of this, we think that change is something we can put in a microwave and be ready in 30 seconds. If you see a need to make a change in the world around you, you should go for it. To that end, the best recommendation is to stay the path, sometimes it is hard to do that but if it is worth it then you can persevere. If it were easy, everyone would do it.
The hardest thing for innovators and change makers is that you must craft the message and success is not instantaneous. The next thing is to make a plan and adjust the plan by understanding that the landscape will change and as it changes so should your plan. The other thing to keep in mind is that everyone is not going to buy in right away, that does not mean that you should shove your idea down everyone else’s throat. What it means is that you should adjust your message to fit the time and understand what your long-term goal is.”
What’s the plan, Stan?
So, what do you do if you’re on a new path and the characters of Inside Out are running amuck in your head?! Give those emotions their voice; however, anchor back to your why. Why are you doing what you are doing? Lisa, another one of my students in this leadership class, found these steps to help with this:
- Create Urgency
- Form a Powerful Coalition
- Create a Vision for Change
- Communicate the Vision
- Remove Obstacles
- Create Short-Term Wins
- Build on the Change
- Anchor the Changes in Corporate Culture
She pulled this from Kotter’s video and this is meant for organizations, but there are some really good nuggets here!
I think these can be applied professionally and 3, 5, 6 and 7 speak to me the most. If you are wrestling with those Inside Out emotions tied to changes you are trying to make, give some of these steps a whirl!
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